We are all guilty of doing this…
Have you ever posted something & repeatedly checked it so see how many likes, retweets, or comments it got? Have you ever weighed yourself because you think you are not that ideal weight? Have you ever kept track of how many followers you have? Have you ever put a book back because it seemed like it had a million words? I have found myself in every single one of these positions at some point in time in my life; & I’m sure you have too. Society has become a dog-eat-dog world & if you don’t have the most followers or likes, you think something is wrong with you. If your weight isn’t under the “normal” weight, then you are fat & ugly. And if a book has too many words, you think it is not worth your time. But what we are missing out on is the big picture; why are we measuring things that are unmeasurable?
As Seth Godin wrote in his “Measuring nothing (with great accuracy)” post, “we keep coming up with new things to measure…but it’s pretty rare that those measurements are actually a proxy for the impact or quality we care about.” Just because you are not the “normal” weight that society or doctors have placed, does not make you ugly or fat. But it does make you beautiful. Someone may have 10k followers, but does that mean you have nothing great to say if you only have 100? No. If a book has a million words, does that mean you should not read it even though it could probably change your life or views on a subject? No. The sad truth is that we rely on media & our peers view on who we are. We are better than that. Stop comparing yourself to the number of likes, followers, or friends you have on social media. “It takes a lot of guts to stop measuring things that are measurable, and even more guts to create things that don’t measure well by conventional mass.”
When I first read this blog post, it spoke volumes to me. We all are slowly becoming replica’s from dying our hair, to putting on makeup, to not eating that last bite of ice cream. We live life caring way too much about what others think of us & it’s causing a great depression in our generation. If you studied all night long & still failed a test, celebrate your hard work & not worry about that letter grade. Be happy. Never dye your hair because you will never achieve that same pure color. Leave your house with no makeup on & natural hair, not because you were being lazy, but because you felt like being the true version of yourself. Let’s all better ourselves & stop worrying about the things that truly have no meaning in life. You are beautiful just the way you are. Read that extraneous book, throw away the scale, & not give a care in the world about the number that is unmeasurable. We were born to be original & to inspire others to grow as an original because there are too many copies in this world.
This is what I have to say to you & then repeat to myself;
Look at nature. Look at flowers. We never walk into our garden and say “Oh wouldn’t that flower be so much more pretty if it were taller? Or red instead of pink?” No, we don’t. Because nature was created perfect just as it is. And so are we. We are part of nature, we are how we’re meant to be, we are perfect just as we are.